Why is sex a big deal?
They try to convince you that it isn't. It's like scratching someone's back, they even say.
Well, it is a big deal because we are humans and humans give a meaning to everything they do.
In fact the meaning is what causes any action in a human being. So whatever you do, you can't escape meaning.
Even if sex is done "casually" (the nice word!), don't be fooled in believing that it doesn't have a meaning (the famous "it was just sex"). It always has a meaning, the question is just what meaning?
When sex is concerned, the question is, does it have a human meaning? Is this act coming from the real transcendent human nature or is it coming from a level of meaning that is not human?
The problem, we could even say, is not the casual sex itself, because if someone doesn't wan't to be fully human, that's his or her affair. The problem, and the real question is "do you want to be human, are you human and even can you be human?"
The essential point is NOT the meaning that is there (some subhuman desintegrated reactive level), the REAL POINT is the meaning that is MISSING! The fully human meaning.
So when a person acts in such a way, the meaning that motivates the person is not the problem, after all many animals give it a similar "meaning", so one more... The real issue is what is missing, and that's the human meaning, the fully human dimension where any action comes from who we really are, from our true transcendent human nature. If it's not there, the question is with whom are we actually dealing? Who is that person then, if we know that "who" we are as a person is actually the level of meaning that commands our acts, emotions and thoughts?
Who are you? That's the question you must ask.
The intuitive ones will realise that the way you percieve the other, exclusively trough physical desire or trough their human essence corresponds to the way you percieve yourself, the way you are conscious of "you".
It is trough that consciousness that you establish any relation to the other person. The more you percieve the other as sexual flesh, external desires, the more you close yourself to the consciousness of your own true human nature, and vice versa. It's a feedback loop.
I will give you an example.
Not so long ago I shortly corresponded with an American woman who said to me (in substance) that she didn't believe in love anymore, she didn't believe in true honest devoted love anymore, all she could see around her was the glorification of cheating, dishonesty etc. So I energetically explained to her about our true human nature, what it means to really be human and about "casual" sex, what I thought about it, what it is, and added that I indeed personally practice what I preach. After that I recieved a mail from her telling me that she decided to abandon casual sex and try to find a meaningful relationship, she added that "somehow" she felt now that it was "possible"!
We see here the devastating effects of external influences. We are so immersed in a sea of suggestions trying to convince us that being human is impossible, that it's an illusion, that it's all lies, that we are just animals. Some "scientists" try to convince us that cheating is natural and evolutionary sound.
Hey "animals do it"!
There are so many influences trying to rob us of our belief in our humanity, in our true nature, that the reaction of my correspondent is not surprising. She lost faith in herself because all she saw around her were suggestions that being truly human is just a lie, an illusion, that it is impossible and a self delusion.
These external suggestions made her lose her faith in her basic true self, she didn't see the possibility for that self to exist and express itself in this world and she accepted the personality, the identity suggested to her to be the only real one, she shut her heart.
When I, on the other hand, unequivocaly refuted such external suggestions with a strong affirmation of our true human nature and even confirmed that I was actually living the way I spoke, then she "somehow" felt that what was "impossible" became suddenly possible because she encountered someone REAL, confirming that it was not only possible but done, and that it didn't came from some "illusory beliefs" in some religions etc. but from the understanding and realisation of our true human nature.
Many people are like my correspondent, they have an initial feeling of who they are but external influence make them lose the faith in that feeling. In the end they feel that they are the "freaks" if they continue to believe in themselves. Some, like my correspondent are lucky, because they are not happy that way, the intuition of who they are, don't let them abandon completely their nature and fully embrace the "animal kingdom". Others are not so lucky, even if they feel they are, and that they are living "interesting" and "fun" lives.
So, let's go back to the question of who you are. The question that you should ask yourself.
What is important is that you realise who you are FROM THE INSIDE and that you don't listen to all those voices telling you "this is impossible", "this isn't real", "you are not this, look, it's impossible". Don't let the exterior tell you who you are. If you look inside, you know who you are. Don't accept the lies of those voices, don't let them become your voice.
I will write another article explaining the origins of all that relentless propaganda trying to convince us that being truly and completely human is impossible, that we are just some animals and that all values, all morality, all truth and honesty are just some idiosynchrasies, personal choices (of naive people), but in no way something real and fundamental.
There is a distinct ideologic origin for all that anti-human propaganda and I will expose it on this site in the future.